By Melissa Christie
Do you have trouble saying no sometimes when people ask you to do something?
It may be as simple as hey, would you like to catch up this week. Initially your response is yes of course and then when you put down the phone or you walk away, sometimes you make think, why did I say that?
Is this something you resonate with, because I do this all the time and it has taken me a long time to learn how to say no.
What I have learnt is that this may come from one of the roles we play, e.g., being a people pleaser.
Something I have been thinking about and I wonder if this is true for you.
I wonder if you resonate with this.
What we think is right for us may not be right for someone else.
What we believe to be true for us may not be true for someone else.
People see things differently, have different opinions on how things should be.
It is like the saying,” One hundred people see a tree and you will see one hundred trees.”
We all see things differently and that comes from our upbringing and our experiences we have had. We learn things from our parents, grandparents and so on. We take on their beliefs, feelings, attitudes and form our own opinions based on what we have learnt, seen, felt. We may decide we don’t like what we see or hear and decide to change, perhaps this, the things we don’t like, becomes a part of us we decide to ignore or minimise and don’t want to be seen as that type of person. We learn to hide behind our mask of our true identity, our true self.
Removing this mask, can be hard that is if we choose to let it go. We may like to wear this mask and never let it go because it makes us feel safe as it is all we have ever known.
We choose pain over pleasure.
We choose to stay in an environment that perhaps we no longer enjoy, rather than choosing to be true to ourselves, taking a risk and letting go what no longer serves us to experience the pleasure of being fulfilled, of doing what our heart truly desires.
This can be a long road, a road full of confrontation, ups and downs yet the outcome can far outweigh the road of staying in the one place and carrying with us resentment, anger, guilt, shame.
It has taken me a long while to work this out and now that I have, I know which road I prefer to travel.
If this is something that resonates with you say “yes” and we can have a chat.
I would love to hear from you. Melissa
About the Author: Melissa Christie
I am a highly experienced nurse, personal development coach, and natural healing practitioner.
I provide guidance and treatment for people who want relief, clarity, and to feel at peace with themselves – by learning how to take control of their health and wellbeing.
I’m Melissa Christie, and have qualifications and experience with a variety of techniques – to embrace the spiritual, mental and physical components of your wellbeing.
Personal Development Coaching plus techniques that include Reiki, Myofascial Release Therapy, Craniosacral Therapy and Polarity – are utilised only as appropriate to suit your objectives – and with your approval, to move you forward in a focused, healthy, deliberate way.
Any combination of these therapies if needed for physical wellbeing – will enable the body to heal at its own pace, in its own rhythm. This often yields results not just in the short term, but also at a deeper unconscious level, which continues to generate improvements over time.
The Personal Development Coaching component is used as required to assist with providing more clarity and purpose, with strategies that can help you achieve significant improvements to all aspects of your life.
Personal Development Coaching is about improving your mindset and empowering you to be the best person you can be….. including how your beliefs and values reflect in your habits and goals, and whether your actions are relating to them accordingly.
If you are willing to change, and welcome in new possibilities to take action that will move you forward to be your best…. think how amazing it will be to develop yourself physically and emotionally – and become the new you!
Together we can make the most of your unconscious mind, as a wealth of information, answers, and possibilities.